When Alcohol is the Only Way to Cope with Motherhood

Have you ever felt the pressure to be the “perfect mom”? It’s a feeling so many of us can relate to, but for some, that pressure becomes an overwhelming burden that leads to a secret battle. In this powerful episode of The Impactful Parent podcast, host Kristina Campos sits down with Emily Roondo, author of the memoir “Wife, Mother, Drunk,” for a raw and honest conversation about motherhood, addiction, and recovery.

Emily shares her personal story of struggling with alcohol addiction while trying to maintain the facade of a perfect life. She opens up about the immense pressure she felt to “do it all” and the hidden struggles she faced daily. Emily’s journey shines a light on the reality of being a wife, mother, and doctor while secretly battling alcoholism and a desire to be the “perfect mom.” This conversation explores the emotional toll of her addiction on her family, her relationships, and her own sense of self.

Beyond her personal story, Emily and Kristina dive into the broader issues of motherhood struggles, intergenerational trauma, and the challenges of seeking help. They discuss the judgment and isolation many mothers face when they are vulnerable about their struggles, and how breaking the silence is a crucial first step towards healing. This episode is a must-watch for anyone who wants to better understand the complexities of addiction recovery, the myth of the “perfect mom,” and the power of finding your voice.

Emily’s story is a testament to the strength it takes to admit you have a problem, ask for help, and rebuild your life. She shares valuable advice for anyone struggling with substance abuse, emphasizing the importance of trusting your gut and finding one person to confide in. This discussion is not just about alcoholism; it’s about the universal themes of shame, vulnerability, and the courage to change your story. Tune in to hear Emily’s inspiring message of hope and healing. You can watch the full video at [   • When Alcohol is the Only Way to Cope with …  

0:00 Intro to The Perfect Mom Mask: When Alcohol is the Only Way to Cope

1:45 Her history with alcohol

3:31 You write about hiding bottles and drinking from morning to night. Can you walk us through what a typical day looked like for you during that time?

7:37 Did your family know?

10:47 You describe the “perfect mom” facade. What was the moment or event that made you realize you couldn’t keep living that way?

13:56 How did your relationship with your husband and kids change as your addiction progressed? How did you navigate being a mother while struggling so deeply?

16:40 You mention the pressure to be a “perfect mom.” Where do you think that pressure comes from, and how did it contribute to your own struggles?

20:15 What were the biggest societal expectations you felt you had to live up to as a mother, and how did those expectations prevent you from seeking help sooner?

26:41 What was the most challenging part of getting sober, especially with a new baby at home?

29:00 What is the one thing you wish someone had said to you when you were at your lowest point?

31:11 For a parent listening who may be struggling with addiction or mental health, what’s a first step they can take today?

33:13 Your memoir explores intergenerational trauma. What did you discover about your own family’s history of loss and love, and how did that understanding aid in your recovery?

38:40 The book: Wife, Mother, Drunk

 41:32 What does being an “impactful parent” mean to you today, given everything you’ve been through?